In order to get your ex back, you have to win her family and friends, too. After all, she does not live in her own little world and she will want the emotional support of her family and friends in her decision to take you back.
This is not to say that you should trash talk your ex girlfriend, diss other family members and friends who refuse to see things your way, and kiss their asses while you are wooing them. You will find to your dismay that you will never ever get your ex back if you do any of the above-mentioned low blows.
Instead, you can follow the suggestions below to win your girl back with the help of her family and friends.
Ask about Family
First, try not to fall out of the circle of family and friends you and your ex girlfriend has built during the duration of your relationship. You are accomplishing two purposes with this one in your quest to win your girl back.
First, you are subtly reminding your ex girlfriend that you still care for her by staying in touch with your old circles, that you will remain part of her life, and that you care for your mutual friends and adopted family no matter what happened.
Second, you are not allowing yourself to drift away into a “casual friend whom I share mutual friends with” status. You are part of the extended family and you don’t intend to forget that.
Third and somewhat selfish, you can glean information about how she is doing, what she is feeling, and when she is ready to talk with you again. Indeed, valuable intelligence when you want to win your girl back!
Talk to Them
This part should be easy if you have established a deep relationship with her family and friends. You can tell them your side of the story in a non-judgmental manner, all the while accepting your faults in the breakup and avoiding dissing your ex girlfriend’s faults in the matter.
Word of caution to the unwary: You have to make sure that the family and friends you talk to are the ones who, with some degree of assurance, will listen to you. Avoid as much as you can those who have been hostile to your relationship from the very beginning. You will be putting a big dent on your plans to win your girl back if you talk to the latter group.
After you have talked to them and convinced them of your noble intentions, you can then ask for their help. Watch how your plans to win your ex girlfriend back will win not just your beloved but the loving support of her family and friends also!