Win Your Girl Back – Win Your Ex Back Through Her Family and Friends

In order to get your ex back, you have to win her family and friends, too. After all, she does not live in her own little world and she will want the emotional support of her family and friends in her decision to take you back.

This is not to say that you should trash talk your ex girlfriend, diss other family members and friends who refuse to see things your way, and kiss their asses while you are wooing them. You will find to your dismay that you will never ever get your ex back if you do any of the above-mentioned low blows.

Instead, you can follow the suggestions below to win your girl back with the help of her family and friends.

Ask about Family

First, try not to fall out of the circle of family and friends you and your ex girlfriend has built during the duration of your relationship. You are accomplishing two purposes with this one in your quest to win your girl back.

First, you are subtly reminding your ex girlfriend that you still care for her by staying in touch with your old circles, that you will remain part of her life, and that you care for your mutual friends and adopted family no matter what happened.

Second, you are not allowing yourself to drift away into a “casual friend whom I share mutual friends with” status. You are part of the extended family and you don’t intend to forget that.

Third and somewhat selfish, you can glean information about how she is doing, what she is feeling, and when she is ready to talk with you again. Indeed, valuable intelligence when you want to win your girl back!

Talk to Them

This part should be easy if you have established a deep relationship with her family and friends. You can tell them your side of the story in a non-judgmental manner, all the while accepting your faults in the breakup and avoiding dissing your ex girlfriend’s faults in the matter.

Word of caution to the unwary: You have to make sure that the family and friends you talk to are the ones who, with some degree of assurance, will listen to you. Avoid as much as you can those who have been hostile to your relationship from the very beginning. You will be putting a big dent on your plans to win your girl back if you talk to the latter group.

After you have talked to them and convinced them of your noble intentions, you can then ask for their help. Watch how your plans to win your ex girlfriend back will win not just your beloved but the loving support of her family and friends also!

The Interaction Between Families and Psychotropic Medication

Family members can have a significant influence on a client’s initial decision to attempt psychotropic medication. They can also influence the client’s willingness to adhere to a treatment regimen once it has been started. This is because most clients live in families, and they are affected by their loved ones’ responses to their choices. For these reasons, clinicians should welcome input from members of the client’s family. After all, the responsibility of caring for a client usually falls on family members. They are not simply uninvolved bystanders.

For example, it is common for family members to prompt or even coerce a client into making the initial appointment with the clinician. However, due to the stigma of mental illness, and the client’s concerns about being a burden to family members, the family may not be fully aware of the client’s mental health status. This lack of knowledge often results from fractured relationships in the family and the client’s preference to keep family members out of the loop.

Although only a few studies have examined the interaction between families and psychotropic medication, we can still extract some clinical wisdom from the sparse literature. It makes sense that caring families would be concerned about their ill family member and would therefore be affected by his or her behavior. These studies tell us, however, that while a collaborative approach to treatment – one that includes family members – works best, seldom are families consulted about medication or educated about the ill client’s condition. Of similar concern is how little clinicians utilize family members as collateral sources of information about the ill client’s previous history.

Why not? Well, family work is time-consuming, and clinicians are often hamstrung by clients that won’t submit to signing informed consent documents that would allow the family to participate in treatment. Family work can be cumbersome from a standpoint of scheduling appointments – getting them together can be like herding cats. Time constraints fueled by managed care-imposed restrictions on the number of sessions clinicians can have with clients makes it all the more easier to overlook family member input. There’s also the family’s belief system regarding medication to consider. In spite of these obstacles, clinicians are encouraged to engage clients in permitting family to participate in treatment decision-making. Clients who believe their family members have a supportive interest in their improvement are often more willing to submit to a psychotropic medication evaluation. That’s because caring families hope that medication- accompanied by other non-pharmacological, psychosocial treatment strategies – will ease their loved one’s suffering. This can also improve relationships between the client and their family.

When getting the family on board, explain the rationale as to why you believe a psychotropic medication evaluation is worth considering for their loved one. Have a healthy respect for family members’ views and experiences about medication, but do challenge faulty belief systems with determination. Offer reading material and Web addresses to help ensure that family members have as much information as possible. And do answer any questions they may have straightforwardly, as you need as many allies as you can get when you invest in client success.